I’ve had this dream twice in less than one week. Both times I had unprotected sex and both times the man ejaculated inside me, leaving me very worried.

The first time it was my boss. The second time it was a stranger who was very loving and affectionate before intercourse, but who then admitted to having tricked me all along, and he turned out to be a psychopath. I was so scared of being pregnant. I didn’t want to have an abortion and yet, I didn’t want to have the child of a psychopath! I blamed myself for having given him the permission to go ahead and for not having been more careful.

I have incredibly vivid dreams all the time, but it’s the first time I have ever had a dream of this sort. Thanks for taking time to read this - I would be really grateful if you could give me your opinion on this.

--Jean, Age 28

Hi Jean -

I think you are worried about having unprotected sex and about not choosing your partners carefully enough. Both are no-no’s, but they happen. We have all kicked ourselves for using poor judgement in the heat of the moment. Sometimes you dodge a bullet, and sometimes your irresponsibility really slaps you in the face - begging for you to wake up!

The fact that you have had this dream twice in one week suggests that this issue really is on your mind right now. Has anything happened recently that is causing you to doubt your judgement or ability to insist on safe sex? Did you recently have unprotected sex or sex without birth control?

If so, this would explain the dreams. If not, your dream may be acting almost as a forwarning. Often our dreams know what we are going to do before we ourselves, consciously know. You may be feeling a bit reckless right now and your dream is trying to warn you of the consequences.

Please write back and let us know.

REPLY:

Dear Dream Doctor,

I did start a new relationship about a month ago, and he is not one of the most straight forward people I have known so far. I mean, there are lots of things he doesn’t tell me or that he’s vague about. We haven’t “slept” together yet and the thought of having to one of these days is somewhat worrying me. Until now, I felt I could trust him to an extent, but maybe the dream is telling me to be careful, in every way.

Thanks again - Jean

Dream Doctor Replies..

Jean -

The red flags are all over this one. Listen to your dreams! They are the exact same thing as your intuition, and they are definitely warning you! Find someone else, who is nice, who will care about you, and who will treat you well. Don’t settle for less - you don’t deserve it!