I actually have had this dream several times (at least 4 that I can remember).

In my dream, I’m pregnant, and when I find out I think to myself “Wait a minute, I’m not seeing anyone, I haven’t had sex in a long time with anyone, how the hell am I pregnant?” Usually the rest of the dream is me freaking out about how I got pregnant. Did I have sex with someone and now I have amnesia and don’t remember? What will I tell my family? They are going to ask me who the father is and I don’t know. They won’t believe me. In most of the dreams, I never have the baby, I always wake up. But in one dream, I had the baby and it was a black baby and I’m white. Not only did I not have the answers to any of the above questions, but how in the world was I going to explain this one? I kept trying my hardest to think of anything that could’ve happened where I was maybe drugged and this could’ve happened.

This dream is always a strange one, especially the one with the black baby. And to answer any questions: I’m white, I’ve never had a relationship with a black man, I’m not attracted to anyone currently who’s black, and I’m not prejudiced either.

- Lisa, Age 27, Chicago, IL, USA

Hi Lisa -

Pregnancy dreams are some of the most common dreams women have, and yours is no exception. It’s natural and normal for women to dream of pregnancy - from little girls who have never had sex to post-menopausal women who are wondering “How in the heck did this happen?” Similarly, given your relationship status, I suspect your dream is a combination of looking forward to the time when you will be pregnant - so you dream of it - coupled with the accompanying thought of “This can’t be true - I’m not in a relationship!” And then the dream continues with you actually believing that you are pregnant, with your mind racing for a possible explanation.

In light of your dream report, I doubt the black baby has any racial significance - i.e., that you are subconsciously attracted to Black men, for example. But I do think that, because the baby is unplanned and unaccounted for, that this may account for his color being unusual or different than what you would expect.

I think your hormones may be "kicking in," Lisa, encouraging you to start thinking about raising a family. If you peek around in the “Pregnant” category (and “Fear of Pregnancy”) in the Women’s section, you’ll find you have lots of company!

Best wishes.