I am a 37 year old professional woman engaged for two years. I had a dream that I was marrying someone else. Specifically, a man who is a professional consultant at my place of employment. He is a handsome man and I have felt attracted to him from time to time, but there hasn’t been anything intimate between us. What is the meaning of this? In the dream, there is a big church ceremony and I am formally attired in a short off white dress. I am seated in the back of the church during the opening of the service. Incidentally, I had a dream about him about a year ago also.

--Anonymous, Age 37

Hi Anonymous -

I wouldn’t worry too much about your dream. I think all people - men and women alike - experience that sense of cold feet as the date of their wedding approaches. (Take a look at the dream currently posted under the category “Newlywed”). When we marry we give up the opportunity to be with someone else - and your dream may be reflecting a bit of angst as you prepare to take “the plunge!” Am I making the right decision, what about that guy over there, is this really the one, am I sure I want to do this....?

It’s kind of funny really, the angst we go through, but these are common concerns among those who are engaged or newlyweds. I think the fact that it hasn’t occurred too often is in your favor, that is, with regard to your current marriage plans. And the fact is that you always will be attracted to other attractive people. You just need to be realistic about these opportunities and have your priorities clear. Just because we appreciate someone else’s attractiveness doesn’t mean they would be good partners for us in the long run.