For a couple of weeks now I’ve been dating a guy. He’s been in a lot of trouble and my parents would freak out if they knew I was dating him. We also don’t have much in common.

These last couple of weeks I’ve been having dreams in which he gets hurt. In one he was on fire and died and we all went to his funeral. Just last night I dreamt he was in the hopsital and had to have surgery.

I’ve never had dreams like this before where it’s always the same people in them and he always gets hurt. Why do I keep dreaming these things?

- Bree, Age 18, Female, Single, Omaha, NE, USA

Hi Bree -

There’s something about the wild ones, isn’t there?

If you’re looking for excitement in your life - it looks like you’ve found the right guy. He’s so dangerous you don’t know what’s going to happen next! And, if he’s as reckless as you say, he may indeed wind up in a hospital needing surgery. Maybe after a fiery car crash?

The fast lane is romantic from a distance - and we all enjoy the thrill of wind rushing through our hair. I suspect, though, that this romance most likely will crash and burn - or perhaps just come to a slow fizzle. The reason why? It’s like you said. You two don’t have much in common.

The reason you’re dreaming about your new friend getting hurt (and dying) is because you’re worried about him. Why don’t you tell him your feelings - that you care about him and don’t want him to hurt himself? It may help him take his foot off the gas just enough to avoid a serious accident.

When you’re running a race - the guys who crash and burn lose. Winners arrive alive - and they get to enjoy the victory party.