I was just wondering about a dream I had about an ex-boyfriend telling me he has always loved me and he never stopped, even though he currently has a girlfriend. In my dream he told me this in front of a lot of people in a classroom. After that we started to kiss passionately because I was so happy. Could it be I dreamed this because I want it to happen or because it’s going to happen?

By the way, he and his girlfriend fight a lot and him and I have been having an affair without her knowing. What does this all mean? I would be so grateful if you would please write back and let me know.

- Anonymous, Age 18, Bakersfield, CA, USA

Hi Anonymous -

As I read your dream I was feeling sorry for you because you lost your ex ...but as I continued reading I became sorry for you for another reason: You’ve let yourself get involved in a relationship that’s an emotional mess!

In your dream your ex-boyfriend tells you that he loves you, and that, despite his girlfriend, he never stopped loving you. Judging from your dream report, all of this is true: he still is “loving” you - at least in a sexual sense! While I can sympathize that maybe your boyfriend is a bit confused (and yourself), what do you make of the fact that he keeps his relationship with you a secret, while publicly he’s out on the town with this other girl? Is this love? Is this the kind of relationship you really want to be in?

Your dream shows that you wish his love for you was public. This is why you kiss passionately in front of your classmates. Like any normal person, you want your relationship to be “out in the open.” Your dream also shows that your “second class” status - you being his “hidden mistress” - already is starting to wear on you. It’s not a happy feeling to be treated second-best, is it?

What’s the message of this dream? It’s time to move on! Find someone who will treat you the way you want to be treated - with love and respect. Because right now, this relationship is a bad dream. It’s wake up time!