I am 17 years old...The guy I dream about comes to my work frequently. I think he’s really good looking and have a slight crush on him. The only problem with that is he has a girlfriend and a baby.

Last night I had the strangest dream about him. I was at some house and he was there. It was just me and him and we were flirting. I felt like I liked him a lot in my dream. He told me to give him a massage and kiddingly I made him say please.

Suddenly we were on a bed and I was giving him a massage. Then I stopped and we were just talking. He told me that he intends to spend a lot of time hanging out with me because I’m wicked nice. He said that he thought it was nice I would give him a massage. He told me that his girlfriend makes him feel bad inside when he’s with her. He told me he thought I was so beautiful.

During this whole time I thought it was so real and I felt like I was in love with him. I was thinking,“I think he’s the one for me..who’ll love everything about me.” I was so happy in this dream. I didn’t want to remember the fact that he had a newborn baby.

Before I gave him a massage he had cut his hand and I was bleeding. I remember he was wearing a red shirt too. Then suddenly I was somewhere else and watching the news. I was with a bunch of people...and the guy I was just with had been in an accident and we were waiting to see if he was dead or alive. I was so scared and was crying...I thought I would never see him again. This felt so real.

Suddenly the reporter announced he was alive..but he was hurt. There was blood by the car. I was so happy I was crying tears of joy because he was alive. I couldn’t tell anyone around me that I was in love with him because he has a girlfriend.

I woke up at 4:00 am and could not fall asleep. I’ve never had a dream leave me with such an impact. I can still feel it...and it’s all I’ve been thinking about.

Please help me!! I can’t stop thinking about it. I can still feel what it felt like when I was falling in love with him.

-- Anonymous, Age 17, Female, Single, Lewiston, ME, USA

Hi Anonymous -

Why do they call it love when it can hurt so much? :-)

Actually, things were going pretty good in this dream until the end. First you two were flirting together, then he asked you for a massage, and then he started giving you some awfully nice compliments.

And you were almost starting to believe this dream would come true.... that he would love you forever and love everything about you... except for that stupid thought that kept coming back into your mind: “He already has a baby with someone else!”

Talk about wrecking the moment!

Speaking of wrecking things...

Do you think it’s any “accident” that one moment you were dreaming of love, and next you were witnessing a bad car wreck?

Death in dreams (in this case serious injury) almost always is an indicator of change, and of people “going away.” Tempting as this man may be, your dream appears to be telling you two things. First, he is not available. (Can we say girlfriend with baby?) Second, if you did get involved, you’d probably wind up getting hurt. Ouch!

What’s the message of this dream? Admire this man from a distance, but think twice before you “go for a ride” in his car!