I recently had a dream about a guy that I work with. I think he’s nice and talented, but I don’t think that I like him in a romantic way, we’re more like friends. My dream was that we were at work, and I think our boss was speaking to us, there were a lot of people behind me, as I was at the front of the crowd. I looked behind me, and there was the guy I work with, and he put his arms around me, and came closer to me to hold me tight. I looked up at him and had a really calm, pure happy feeling about the situation and how he was holding me. Then, the next part of the dream was when I was sitting on a chair, and he was trying to keep me from falling asleep, I felt extremely exhausted. I fell onto the floor softly, I remember the floor was carpeted. I then had a feeling of disappointment and felt like giving up on him and on us. Suddenly, he came up behind me and picked me up by the arm, and I awoke more, and he hugged me, holding me tight once again. I felt safe and not overwhelmingly in love but it was a nice, happy feeling, like he really cared about me, and he truly wanted me to not give up on us. I think maybe I may like him, but he is just nice to everyone and I guess I am afraid of the rejection. I have never had a boyfriend, but I know that this dream made me feel really warm and happy inside.

I hope you answer soon, as I am wondering what this dream means. Thank you for the wonderful website. :)

--Raven, Age 16, Vancouver, Canada

Dear Raven -

I think you may have already solved your dream. You may not be sure of this guy’s attention for you (you say he is nice to everyone) but you also say that you may be afraid of being rejected - which is a fear we all face when we become interested in someone else romantically. They may like us as friends - but maybe not anymore than that. I think your dream shows that you are interested in this guy, that you like him pretty much from working with him so far, so why don’t you try to get to know him a bit better while you two are still working together? Just see if you like each other as friends first - you don’t have to worry about whether he’ll be your boyfriend or not right now. The best relationships are the ones that have a good level of friendship at their foundation. Maybe you two can watch a movie together or go somewhere during the day - for a bike ride, to see a concert or something outside. That would be fun and you two could get to know each other better at the same time!

Let us know how it goes!