I keep having this dream that I am talking very deeply, on a high intellectual level, with this guy that I have just noticed a few weeks ago. There is a small hint of sexuality in the dream, but never any action. We are just talking for hours. Then I wake up.

I really enjoy these dreams because I think this guy is really interesting and an independent thinker like myself. We both view the world in a very different way than most people. That is one of the main reasons I am attracted to this guy -- because of his thinking.

But my best friend is warning me of him. She says the only thing he's got going for him is he's a good friend and listens to cool music, but he's a scumbag and smokes more cheebah [marijuana] than you can imagine. She thinks I can find a better man, but I really like this guy.

Does my dream mean that we should hang out more and get to know each other? I don't know. But I really think this guy is special and different from anyone else. And my dreams are convincing me of that even more.

Thanks,

—Confused, Age 22, single, USA

Hi Confused—

No wonder you're second-guessing your intuition. One minute your best friend is telling you this intellectual is a good friend, the next she's telling you he's a scumbag. What's up with that kind of advice?

The great benefit of dreams is that they allow us to "see" thoughts and feelings that we hold at a subconscious level. In your case, it appears this "high" intellectual has stimulated the sexiest organ in your body -- your brain! (And you'd like the conversation to continue...)

Your dreams suggest you've perceived a kindred soul in your interactions with this man. The fact that the dreams recur indicates that your curiosity is still strong. After all your years of dream work, are you going to "miss the boat" on such a transparent message?

It's time to get together with this man of your dreams. Whether your attraction is romantic or "just intellectual" is a discovery you'll have the pleasure of making in the real world.

Ask him for coffee or ask him to a party where you'll be able to sit together and chat. If you don't allow intellectual sparks to grow into flames of passion you'll never know what could have been.